It's Official! It IS the Last Minute

So what are you doing for Valentine’s?  Teddy Bears and Pajama Grams? Flowers?  A Hallmark Card?  Chocolates? (An obvious great choice!)

Whether you’re married or not, what gift could make the biggest difference in the life of someone you love? Hint: It’s not about things.

·     Words – that affirm, strengthen, and bring security.

·     Touch – especially non-sexual, comforting, reassuring, sustaining touch.

·     Present-ness - Really being there in the moment, fully present, fully attentive to the other person. Listening “with” not simply listening “to.” (while thinking about our response) Being present takes time, but it’s not about the time; rather about being connected.

Powerful suggestions, but I’ll go one step further. The deepest and most enduring longing of my heart and yours is to be fully known and fully loved. It is a God-given need. In spite of our faults we gain strength when we are valued and treasured. Though inadequate, we need assurance that we matter; that we are making a difference; that we are protected. When threatened we need security.

The greatest gift I can give the one I love is to become a safe place for her to be fully known and fully loved.

How do I know I’m right? Because I have experienced it in the one who loves me.  Thank you, hon…    And through her, I have come to know more fully the one who has loved me from Eternity past. Thank you, Father.

“We love because he first loved us!”  1 John 4:19

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